When it comes to relationships, being effective is more important than being efficient. In this video, Chris Hogan shows you the noble path to effective relationships.
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Posted by Chris Hogan on Mar 01, 2011
I was reading the book “How We Love” by Milan and Kay Yerkovich when I came across a list of what they call Soul Words. I have come across many lists over the years that help people identify their feelings and I find them extremely useful for men who tend to categorize all of their feelings into one of two words angry, or frustrated. I recommend giving this list to the person your are having a courageous conversation with so they can better identify what is going on inside their soul.
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Intimacy is developed when there is a mutual revealing of our authentic selves. Another way of saying intimacy is in-to-me-see. We desire to connect at deeper levels but often we just don’t know how. Our relationships begin to thrive when we learn how to navigate each level of authentic sharing. These connections give our lives meaning, a measure of safety, security, significance, and we become more resilient in times of tribulation.
Posted by Chris Hogan on Feb 05, 2008
Just as a knight went through stages to become a warrior of the first magnitude, so we as husbands and fathers go through stages to become noble men. Each stage of nobility is characterized by a greater willingness to receive God’s grace so we can will the will of the Father. Each stage is marked by a greater Christlikeness which is revealed by our character, and our willingness to lose our lives and gain the life of Christ.
Posted by Chris Hogan on May 11, 2007
Jenny Speed shares the first in a series of six articles for wives whose husbands are unrepentant of moral failure.
Posted by on Apr 10, 2007
How can two walk together unless they are in agreement (Amos 3:3). One of the worst thing we can say to our wives is, “Fine, we will do it your way!” What is a man to do when it seems like his wife is forcing him to make a decision he is not in agreement with or not ready to make?
Posted by Chris Hogan on Mar 13, 2007
Most of us men can go from hero to zero in minutes but do you know how to go from zero to hero in your marriage? In this article you will learn four keys to connecting with your wife.
Posted by Chris Hogan on Feb 21, 2007
“Why do we need this?” we thought.
But in spite of our knowledge we fought.
Because of deep fear
We never could hear
And declined to do as we ought.
Posted by Chris Hogan on Dec 28, 2006
This article describes the 10 Questions of a courageous conversation and gives a brief description of the purpose for each one. These questions are helpful in drawing out the counsel that resides deep in the heart of a person. It takes a man of understanding to draw this out and these questions are a tool to help you.
Posted by Chris Hogan on Aug 08, 2006
Become a man or woman of understanding by learning three foolish responses that lead to the death of a relationship and three wise responses that bring life, honor, and peace.
Posted by Chris Hogan on Aug 05, 2006
Being a husband is both a noun and a verb. We are called to husband our wives. To husband means to cultivate, care for, and cause to flourish
Posted by Chris Hogan on May 25, 2006
This is a prayer my wife wrote and uses to pray for herself and for wives of husbands I am working with. It is because of Anne and her manner of life and conversation that I have become a noble man in Christ Jesus. She was able to intercede first for her own life and then for mine and our children. She showed me what a noble life was about, one of coming, calling and clothing others with the love of God. It is through Anne’s chaste and godly example, her intercession, and her willingness to always look at her own responsibility before God that has led the way for me to mature in Christ Jesus as a noble man.
Posted by Chris Hogan on Apr 26, 2006
Becoming an Irrisistible leader who people willingly follow doesn’t depend so much on how interesting you are but how interested you are.
Posted by Chris Hogan on Jan 13, 2006
He who understands the heart will win the heart. This requires becoming the leader Peter Drucker talks about when he stated, “In organizations of the past, the role of the leader was to tell. In organizations of today and of the future, the role of hte leader is to ask.”
Posted by Chris Hogan on Sep 27, 2005
Noble Leadership is about Coming into our relationships with the purpose of reconciling, restoring and revealing love one to another. Noble Leadership is about Calling people back into the relationship instead of being withdrawn and isolated. It is about humbling ourselves and walking in faith instead of fear. Noble Leadership is finally about Clothing one another with God’s mercy and His truth. It is about enlarging our frame of reference so we can become wise and gain understanding.
Posted by Chris Hogan on Mar 17, 2005
I realize this takes courage to confront the brutal facts and humility to receive the truth but this is the first order of any leader.
Posted by Chris Hogan on Mar 17, 2005
The first priority in war is to try and cut off lines of communication so the enemy cannot communicate within their own ranks. The same thing happens in relationships through what I call The Combat Cycle that is based on the Normal Leadership paradigm of Come, See, Conquer and then Retreat. This is the cycle many couples find themselves locked into. One partner gets critical of the other and causes their spouse to get defensive and to finally withdraw, cutting off the lines of communication.
Posted by Chris Hogan on Mar 17, 2005
Good Master, what shall we do to have a great marriage? This article describes how to overcome the hardness of heart that occurs when we offend one another in marriage.
Posted by Chris Hogan on Mar 17, 2005
Failing forward is the key to growth in marriage.
Posted by Chris Hogan on Mar 17, 2005